Special Needs Parents and PTSD Survey Results
This post is the first in a series, based on the survey results, about special needs parents and PTSD. In future posts, you’ll hear from some of the people who participated in the survey–with their permission, of course. But for today, the series examines the results of the study.
Do you think you have PTSD that was caused by your child’s special needs? All 49 participants answered this question. 90% said yes. 10% said no.
Have you been diagnosed by a mental health professional or doctor with PTSD? Again, all participants answered this question. 30% answered yes, they have been diagnosed with PTSD by a mental health care professional. 70% said no.
Have you received professional treatment for PTSD? Of the 47 people who answered this question, 30% said they have received professional treatment for PTSD, but 70% said they have not.
Did professional treatment help you cope with your traumatic memories? 36 people answered this question, even though only 14 said they have received professional treatment. 30% (16 people) said treatment helped them cope. 70% (20 people) said it did not. Hopefully, we can presume those who actually received treatment were the ones who responded positively.
When did your initial traumatic experience occur?
Here are the comments parents left in the box:
- Post adoption
- During hospitalization
- Right after she was born with her first diagnosis of cancer at 6 weeks of age.
- At birth
- At birth with first TEF baby and in NICU with second TEF baby
- Yes during birth
- Before birth
- After birth
- Began when we adopted her from Russia.
- Premature birth, NICU
- After diagnosis of stroke when she was 8 months of age
- About a year after my first son was born. The first year is all about survival. When the dust starts to settle everything hit me like a brick. I managed to find a balance again. We found out we were pregnant with our second little boy. 24 weeks into pregnancy I found out he two would have the same disorder as his brother. Moments later the brick hit me again. It’s been over a year since the diagnoses and he is 8.5 months old. I’m still struggling.
- At birth and in the NICU for 6 weeks. (preemie, born 10 weeks early)
- I am raising my grandson, who is my son’s son, but due to circumstances at that time, he was not around. I was stunned that the mother wanted to give him up, so that was my first moment of panic. Then slowly realizing something was “not right” and thinking perhaps it was a connection/bond he was missing with his mother, I finally took him to the doctor where I left completely stunned by the diagnosis. Our lives took a sudden huge turn. I have learned a lot about PTSD. I know I probably need to take time and deal with my own, but I’m so involved in the caregiving process on so many levels.
- Before birth
- At birth, his first year spent mostly in hospital, his about 30 surgeries, for about the 4 years he stopped breathing about 6 times a day, the 2 times he almost died of kidney failure. Then my daughter started having supraventricular tachycardia episodes and mental health issues.
- When my son was admitted to the hospital at 5 days old
- With in the first month of my son’s birth
- diagnoses before birth
- When my child was 5 weeks old
- At birth and many subsequent scary near losses
- Diagnosis and afterwards
- Birth, NICU, fighting for him during his first two years, heart surgery, and then bleeding
- I’m not sure if I can pinpoint the first experience. It could be the emergency C-section required at birth, the multiple ear infections as a baby, the increasing symptoms of autism in the first 2 years, the diagnosis at 27 months, or when it all finally hit me 3 years after diagnosis. I’m not positive I HAVE PTSD, but I do have major anxiety and clinical depression.
- In NICU
- At about age 2 when his behavior and CP were first diagnosed
- at diagnosis
- At diagnosis (newborn) and multiple times throughout growing years
- About three years after he was born, after the the calm after the storm
- At diagnosis
- Both at the time of my sons near drowning accident and once again last year when he stop breathing and had to be rushed to the hospital in an ambulance
- During his traumatic birth
- At diagnosis
- I believe the sudden death of my first husband had barely shown signs of what it did to me, then after remarrying our 16 month old was diagnosed with a brain tumor, after 18 visits to emerge starting at 16 weeks we begged for an MRI
- During NICU but didn’t get help until probably a year later
- When we met him in China (adoption)
- NICU after his adoption
- Before birth of my first child. Reactivated immediately after birth of my second (HIE) once she was taken away
- I would guess at birth, but maybe just along the way, sooo many things!
- Around diagnosis, at his first seizure
- Before child’s birth and then continued at her birth, NICU admission, heart failure, and chronic medical problems that ensued. It peaked when medical professionals accused us of making our child ill and reported us to state child protective services. Thankfully, their claims were quickly thrown out as invalid, but it amplified the PTSD.
- Before birth, NICU and subsequent surgeries and diagnosis
- At birth
What is your child’s special needs diagnosis? The diagnosis ran the gamut from conditions caused by birth trauma, congenital abnormalities that required medical treatment or surgery at birth and a NICU stay, autism, epilepsy, developmental delays, RAD, and mental illness.
Are you interested in contributing a blog post to DifferentDream.com’s upcoming series about special needs parents and PTSD? Of the 47 people who answered this question, 25 said yes. If you’re one of those people, thank you for your willingness to share your story. And watch your inbox for an email very soon about what to do next.
Did the Survey Results Surprise You?
Here’s what surprised me about these results….the number of parents dealing with PTSD for a long period of time without treatment or support. This makes me very sad because treatment is available and effective. So in addition to the stories survey participants will be contributing to this series, considerable time will be devoted to effective treatments and how to locate them.
So, did the survey results blow you away? Leave a comment about your reaction in the box below. Thanks!
Part 2: Special Needs Parents and PTSD–What About You Mom?
Part 5: PTSD in Parents–Moving from Negative to Positive
Part 7: PTSD in Parents of Kids with Special Needs: Visualization as a Coping Tool
Part 8: Newborns Feel Pain: The Headline that Almost Triggered My PTSD
Part 10: Why Kids with PTSD Need Mentally Healthy Parents
Part 11: PTSD and Special Needs Parents: Calling it Like It Is
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Jolene Philo is the author of the Different Dream series for parents of kids with special needs. She speaks at parenting and special needs conferences around the country. She’s also the creator and host of the Different Dream website. Sharing Love Abundantly With Special Needs Families: The 5 Love Languages® for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities, which she co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, was released in August of 2019 and is available at local bookstores, their bookstore website, and at Amazon.
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