Sylvia Phillip’s Special Needs Resolution: Enjoy the Moment

by Jan 24, 2014Advocacy, Special Needs Parenting4 comments

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Welcome to the final installment of Different Dream’s 2014 special needs New Year’s Resolution series. Guest blogger Sylvia Phillips winds things up by looking to the future and at the moment in her list of resolutions.

My New Year’s Resolution

I have never before really thought about actually putting into writing a New Year resolution before. Mostly  because I didn’t want to obligate myself. I didn’t want to ever look back and see that I had failed to accomplish it. But this year I was invited to write down a resolution or two and decided that it’s time for me to turn over a new leaf!

I do hereby resolve to lighten up on myself and my husband. I tend to paralyze us from making decisions that could be the best thing ever because I analyze every minute detail. I over analyze and  scrutinize every little thing that could go wrong. I fret over all the bad things that might happen if we do such and such and such!
I want to stop fretting over, second guessing, and agonizing that maybe we should have made different decisions! I need to remind myself that we have always done the best we could with the resources the Lord has given us. We have never made a decision lightly, carelessly or out of selfishness. All our decisions have been informed ones, decided upon with love and concern for Bethany, for all our children.

Since it’s also been an ongoing  struggle for me to live in and enjoy the moment, I really want to slow down, search for and enjoy all the great little joyful moments that come our way. There really are a lot of them!  I must constantly be on vigil–fighting that destructive, pesky, though  thank goodness,  less intense version of the negative, doom and gloom, all or nothing, glass half empty kind of attitude that I inherited from my parents.

I really need to stop worrying about the future so much, too. We are fast approaching our retirement years. We want to make plans. We have ideas about where we want to live and how we’d like to spend some of our time, but these plans don’t have to written in stone just yet!!

Hmmm! Now that I’ve written that last resolution,  I’m wondering if it contradicts my resolution to work on my inability to make  decisions  and stick to them?

How About You?

Can you identify with Sylvia’s resolutions? Do you have suggestions about how to enjoy the moment? Leave them in the comment box.

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4 Comments

  1. Jolene

    It’s a worthy goal!

  2. Jolene

    Thank you Kerith! The URL is fixed. It’s so nice to know you’ve got my back!

  3. Kerith Stull

    (Just an FYI — the link at the bottom of the post to Sylvia’s website goes to her old one. Might miss out on some readers if they have to click that one extra time! Just helping a sista out!)

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